Dealing with stress effectively involves managing a variety of symptoms, too many to address in a short article. Continually going over past experiences is one symptom that many sufferers share. Today, let's look at a new stress relief technique I have created that will really help with stress and anxiety and will also be helpful for people who are suffering from depression.
Repeatedly raking over experiences from the past is a behavior pattern that will only result in emotional turmoil. Sufferers will selectively recall only those occasions where things didn't work out, went wrong, or where they made a mistake. This creates a no-win scenario and it is vital to be aware of the way this injurious behavior works.
When you're feeling stressed, anxious, or depressed, the desire to replay past experiences and adopting an "if only" perspective can be compelling. What will happen is that you will blame yourself for things you did believing that you shouldn't have done them, for example:
"Quitting my last job really was a big mistake. I'd have been better off back there, leaving was a huge mistake, I'm such an idiot."
But you'll also blame yourself for things you didn't do that you believe you should have done, like this:
"I made a big mistake when I turned down the chance to buy that house instead of this one. I was so stupid to turn it down and I'm certain all of us would've been much more happy there."
Can you now recognize what is going on here and that the only outcome is emotional turmoil?
Because of the selective nature of this type of negative brooding, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
Amazingly, a lot of sufferers are able to rake over past misfortunes from way back in their lives, even going back fifteen, twenty or thirty odd years to castigate themselves for actions they did or did not perform.
Just a few weeks ago, I realzed that I was raking over a number of bad experiences that happened to me about a decade ago and I created a new stress relief technique to address it that I'm sure will be of great help with stress and stressful illnesses.
At the point of realizing how I was repeatedly replaying past circumstances and that it was making me really sad, I turned to look at my face in the mirror and firmly stated:
"You can't do this anymore. Those things are done and dusted, they are gone forever and I'm not going to allow them to upset me ever again."
That's a powerful statement to make as well as being completely true, but what I said next is the most important part:
"This is just so boring. I've had enough of this drivel, it's lasted way too long and from this day on, I'll not tolerate its mind-numbingly boring presence for a second more. The time has arrived to move on to fresh, exciting experiences."
So now, each time I find myself about to brood on these events that now exist only in my own mind, I just say dismissively:
"Oh no, not that miserable bore-fest. Bored of it, I'm not interested, I've got better things to do now."
It's proven to be very effective at stopping me from brooding on the past, do please give it a go and I have no doubt that it will be a big help with stress and stressful illnesses.
Repeatedly raking over experiences from the past is a behavior pattern that will only result in emotional turmoil. Sufferers will selectively recall only those occasions where things didn't work out, went wrong, or where they made a mistake. This creates a no-win scenario and it is vital to be aware of the way this injurious behavior works.
When you're feeling stressed, anxious, or depressed, the desire to replay past experiences and adopting an "if only" perspective can be compelling. What will happen is that you will blame yourself for things you did believing that you shouldn't have done them, for example:
"Quitting my last job really was a big mistake. I'd have been better off back there, leaving was a huge mistake, I'm such an idiot."
But you'll also blame yourself for things you didn't do that you believe you should have done, like this:
"I made a big mistake when I turned down the chance to buy that house instead of this one. I was so stupid to turn it down and I'm certain all of us would've been much more happy there."
Can you now recognize what is going on here and that the only outcome is emotional turmoil?
Because of the selective nature of this type of negative brooding, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
Amazingly, a lot of sufferers are able to rake over past misfortunes from way back in their lives, even going back fifteen, twenty or thirty odd years to castigate themselves for actions they did or did not perform.
Just a few weeks ago, I realzed that I was raking over a number of bad experiences that happened to me about a decade ago and I created a new stress relief technique to address it that I'm sure will be of great help with stress and stressful illnesses.
At the point of realizing how I was repeatedly replaying past circumstances and that it was making me really sad, I turned to look at my face in the mirror and firmly stated:
"You can't do this anymore. Those things are done and dusted, they are gone forever and I'm not going to allow them to upset me ever again."
That's a powerful statement to make as well as being completely true, but what I said next is the most important part:
"This is just so boring. I've had enough of this drivel, it's lasted way too long and from this day on, I'll not tolerate its mind-numbingly boring presence for a second more. The time has arrived to move on to fresh, exciting experiences."
So now, each time I find myself about to brood on these events that now exist only in my own mind, I just say dismissively:
"Oh no, not that miserable bore-fest. Bored of it, I'm not interested, I've got better things to do now."
It's proven to be very effective at stopping me from brooding on the past, do please give it a go and I have no doubt that it will be a big help with stress and stressful illnesses.
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